Many times, I have found myself ending the year making a list of all the things that happened, focusing on what I got done and what I was able to do. I’ve done this since I was a child, checking off my accomplishments, giving order to my otherwise chaotic family life. However, this year, I…Read More
The last 48-hours took me by surprise. I found myself caught up in some ingrained patterns and habits of response. As I was making holiday plans with my family, I fell into trying to please some people, and accommodate others. I lost balance, and before I knew it I wasn’t seeing clearly what was really right…Read More
What really inspires us? It’s such an important question. What renews us, and gives us life? As I share things with you, I encourage you to notice what truly inspires you? I find this video of the Prayer of St. Francis to inspire me. Enjoy! Also, here’s a type of guided meditation I use during…Read More
All creation holds its breath, listening within me, because to hear you, I keep silent. Rainer Maria Rilke, from The Book of Monastic Life This past weekend, I took time out from the constant buzz of city life, and spent a few days at a friend’s house in the country. I didn’t realize how much…Read More
In the end we discover that to love and let go can be the same thing. —Jack Kornfield I was really struck by this quote when it landed in my inbox last week, as I continue to process the loss of a friendship in my life. When I read this quote, I felt the invitation to…Read More
Wednesday Wisdom: Staying in the Flow of Love Last Friday, I led a spirit-filled ‘Day of Prayer’ at Mercy Center. One of the things we reflected upon was the importance of noticing what keeps us in the flow of love, and what pulls us out of it. I have found that a practice of self…Read More
BOOKS BY COLETTE
How My Friendship with a Trappist Monk Taught Me to Trust and Embrace Life
Published by Ave Maria Press, Spring 2015.
"In Seeking Surrender, Colette Lafia challenges our notion of surrender, inviting us to see it as a path of opening to the fullness of life. Her spiritual companion, a Trappist Monk from the Abbey of Gethsemani, encourages and guides her towards deeper trust along her journey in a series of letters shared over years. A beautiful and honest book." – Fr.Richard Rohr, O.F.M.
An unlikely friendship between spiritual director and retreat leader, Colette Lafia, and a silent monk at Thomas Merton’s home monastery, the Abbey of Gethsemani, comes to life through seven years’ worth of shared letters. Lafia’s palpable openness and warm storytelling offer her readers the same compassionate process that lead Lafia to accept herself, find peace with life, and strive for an ever deeper relationship with the Divine.
Folded within the development of a deep friendship cultivated through brief letters exchanged between Lafia and Brother René is Lafia’s struggle with infertility, insomnia, the loss of her sister, the declining health and eventual death of her father, and her role as her father’s caregiver. Brother René’s compassion and guidance to her throughout these trials and Lafia’s responses to him provide a template for helping readers surrender to their own life’s events.
Readers will find simple exercises and profound advice for living a more conscious and intentional life, including tips like, “Look at yourself through God’s eyes,” “Notice when fear arrives at your door,” and “Trust all is well.” Ultimately readers will come away with a new attitude of letting go and acceptance in daily life.
Comfort & Joy
Simple Ways to Care for Ourselves and Others
Purchase the book with new journaling tips included from Amazon.
Awarded “One of the Best Spiritual Books of 2008” by spirituality and practice.com
“In her book Comfort and Joy, Lafia’s warm prose knits a cozy tapestry of vignettes, observations, affirmations, and gentle questions covering the simple ways we can care for others and ourselves.” Janet Boyer, author of New Year, New You.
Comfort and Joy is a small book that can engender big and welcomed changes in our lives and our attitude. It’s a book to keep handy, to turn to again and again. Lafia offers forty-five vignettes—small stories, pictures of comfort as simple and grand as a plush pillow or a warm cup of tea. Simply reading them is comforting and more than likely to inspire the reader to dive into the journaling prompts or follow the suggestions for cultivating comfort, which accompany each passage. And because she knows that comfort taken and comfort shared make the world a much kinder and better place, in a section called “Applied Comfort,” Lafia gives us inspiring ways to take comfort and pass it on.
A simple and beautiful book with a profound message—learning to comfort ourselves is not a narcissistic pursuit, it’s absolutely essential if we want to make any kind of real difference in the world.