About

Colette Lafia is a spiritual director, retreat facilitator, and writer who invites people to see themselves as a manifestation of Divine love.

If you’re anything like me, perhaps you’re curious about how to grow your spiritual life, or perhaps you’ve wondered how to gain greater trust in your own spiritual intuition. I’ve devoted my writing and spiritual teaching to address these kinds of questions and to help guide people on their own sacred journeys.

From individual spiritual direction to both in-person and online retreats, I strive to help people connect more deeply with the presence of the sacred in their daily lives. As a trained Spiritual Director, I seek to cultivate a safe and intimate space where we can explore how the spirit and divine love are intersecting with our daily lives.

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Drawing from the contemplative Christian tradition, I enjoy sharing the gifts of the many wisdom teachers who have come before me. I’ve spoken at many church events, spiritual retreat centers, and formation groups, and my greatest joy is connecting with people and sharing in the mystery that is the sacred life.

I am a graduate of the Spiritual Directors’ Institute at Mercy Center in Burlingame, California, and recently completed the “Living School” program in the Christian contemplative and mystical traditions at the Center For Action and Contemplation, guided by Fr. Richard Rohr, Rev. Cynthia Bourgeault, and Dr. James Finley.

Colette’s books have been well received.

Her forthcoming book, The Divine Heart: Seven Ways to Live in God's Love, will be out in May 2021 (Monkfish Press).

Her book, Comfort & Joy: Simple Ways to Care for Ourselves and Others (Conari, 2008) was given the honor of being named one of the best spiritual books of the year by Spirituality & Practice.

Her book, Seeking Surrender: How My Friendship with a Trappist Monk Taught Me to Trust and Embrace Life (Sorin Books, 2015) was featured in Presence, the publication for Spiritual Directors’ International, and was called, “A beautiful and honest book,” by Father Richard Rohr.

Some of my guiding principles:

  • We need to trust our spiritual experiences.
  • The more we can be love in the world, the more we fulfill our purpose in life.
  • Divine love is a healing for in ourselves and in the world.
  • Honesty and authenticity are the foundation of a meaningful relationship with ourselves, others, the world around us, and with God.
  • The Divine presence is available to all who have the willingness to open their hearts.
  • Contemplative practices help us to step into social action with more love, compassion and a willingness to serve from the heart.
  • Gratitude is a spiritual path, inviting us to see life as a gift.
  • Each of us is more than we could ever imagine—full of possibility, love, and dreams. We are called to honor our longing to experience and express all of who we are.

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