Colette Lafia

Author & Spiritual Director

Colette Lafia

Author & Spiritual Director

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a spiritual companion for the journey


The movement of our hearts towards Divine Love is the essence of our spiritual experience. It is my honor to accompany you on this profound journey into love—to offer you practices, prayers, and spiritual insights that will help you grow love-centered relationships with everyone and everything around you.

Work with Colette

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Workshops & Retreats

Topics cover living a life overflowing with Divine love, finding comfort & joy in everyday life, and more.


The Divine Heart Book Events

Virtual Book Events and Presentations on themes from The Divine Heart. 

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Spiritual Direction

Work one to one with Colette in person or virtually. Explore your heart's deepest desire for connection and union with the Divine. 

Upcoming Retreats

Embracing Comfort

Embracing Comfort, Embodying Joy Women's Retreat • August 11-13, 2023

Comfort and joy are powerful pathways to awakening God’s love in our lives. Through the channels of comfort, we touch the presence of the Spirit both within us and around us, and in the process discover great joy.

During this weekend women’s retreat you’ll have the opportunity and warm support to:

  • discover how comfort can be a source of self-care
  • tap into the living presence of joy within and around you
  • take time to rest and refresh yourself
  • reflect on your life and reconnect with your deepest desires

Join us for San Damiano’s annual women’s retreat led by award-winning author and spiritual director Colette Lafia. It will be a time for reflection, prayer, creativity, self-care, and the joy of being in community with other women. Participants will receive a copy of Colette’s book, Comfort and Joy, named as a book of the year by “Spirituality and Practice,” in the category of spiritual nurturing.

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The Divine Heart

Seven Ways to Live In God's Love

Spiritual director Colette Lafia tells us that at the core of our being there is an ever-flowing love relationship with God, and it’s here we find meaning in our lives. Beautifully expressed, with examples and awakenings from the author’s own journey, The Divine Heart offers seven “invitations,” principles of spiritual practice that awaken us to the ever-abundant flow of Divine love.

Read more & schedule a Free Presentation with Colette. 

Nautilus Book Awards, recognizing Books for a Better World, selected The Divine Heart as a 2022 Silver Award Winner in Religion/Spirituality of Western Thought.

"During these turbulent times, we need the steadying voice of feminine wisdom more urgently than ever. In this luminous book, spiritual guide Colette Lafia offers the fruits of her tenderly cultivated inner life to feed people of all genders who thirst for a direct encounter with the embodiment of love, which she recognizes as our own true nature."

--- Mirabai Starr, translator of John of the Cross and Teresa of Avila, author of Wild Mercy

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The Divine Heart:

Seven Ways to Live in the Fullness of Love

A Discussion Guide

Download this free book study guide to support deeper reflection on the core concepts of Living in the Fullness of Love presented in The Divine Heart. Use this guide on your own, in a book group, in the classroom, or with a group of loved ones.

Read with Colette



A Grateful Day with Brother David Steindl-Rast –

Ten years ago, Br. David recorded A Good Day, which has been watched well over 1 million times. We invite you to join us in ...
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Sharing my good news!

As we reach the end of May with summer around the corner and celebrations and graduations in the air, I'm finding myself celebrating, too! I’ve ...
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In a stance of self-acceptance

In a stance of self-acceptance, pray with the question: How can I let myself fall, finally, freely into Love’s arms? Notice what you are being ...
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Seeking Surrender: How My Friendship with a Trappist Monk Taught Me to Trust and Embrace Life

Seeking Surrender

How My Friendship with a Trappist Monk Taught Me to Trust and Embrace Life

Published by Ave Maria Press, Spring 2015.

Order on Amazon or from your favorite bookseller today.

"In Seeking Surrender, Colette Lafia challenges our notion of surrender, inviting us to see it as a path of opening to the fullness of life. Her spiritual companion, a Trappist Monk from the Abbey of Gethsemani, encourages and guides her towards deeper trust along her journey in a series of letters shared over years. A beautiful and honest book."  – Fr.Richard Rohr,O.F.M.

Comfort & Joy: Simple Ways to Care for Ourselves and Others

Comfort & Joy

Simple Ways to Care for Ourselves and Others

Purchase the book with new journaling tips included on Amazon or from your favorite bookseller today.

Awarded “One of the Best Spiritual Books of 2008” by spirituality and

“In her book Comfort and Joy, Lafia’s warm prose knits a cozy tapestry of vignettes, observations, affirmations, and gentle questions covering the simple ways we can care for others and ourselves.” Janet Boyer, author of New Year, New You.





“Thank you Colette and others for sharing this retreat. I found it a wonderful touchstone through a busy time. It was delivered in such an accessible, sweet way. Having participated in the Living School myself, I found that your summaries and integration of the material was profound for me. Thank you. I was challenged to really create enough space to go as deeply as this deserved. A life-long challenge. I could have spent a day on each session. Please keep sharing your gift Colette.”



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"This has been a beautiful, personalized, compassionate and meaningful retreat for me! I was able to slow down and get in touch with Christ who is in me! Colette your topics and the pace you set for us led us deeper into ourselves! I thank you! I intend to keep re-reading all of this over and over in order to hopefully keep me in this wonderful, peaceful place!"




"I found myself opening again to both receive and give with open arms, knowing that in whom I live and move and have my being. I have regained the habit of prayerful living which allows the Divine. Thank you Colette. This is just what I needed in my life at this time."




"Thank you Colette for allowing me to join your Retreat. It has blessed my soul. I found the demonstration on Centering prayer so very helpful & will keep using it. I so enjoyed Thomas Keating's interview, finding him very real. The simplicity of his life and faith was an inspiration. I have ended your Retreat with the words of that lovely Hymn on my heart, ' Love Divine all Loves excelling' It is the prayer I close this Retreat with. Thank you."




"One of the graces I received during this retreat is that of keeping my focus on Divine Love. Receiving this Divine Love deep into my bones, and knowing that in first receiving it as the reality that it is actually more real than anything else, I can then reflect it more easily to all I encounter! Thank you so much Colette for enhancing and expanding my experience of Divine Love through this retreat."




"I am grateful for the grace of growing closer to the Beloved as I have experienced how deep, high, long & wide is this divine love. It is expansive, limitless, and eternal love! The Beloved is delighted to place His/Her hands on my heart, to fill me with compassion, to heal my hurts and sorrows, and to share this love between us. Being filled, I am amazed how much divine love flows out! Thanks and Blessings of love to you, Colette, and to all who have shared this retreat."




"Thank you, Colette. I now have more clarity on the difficulty of my transition. I have left this workshop with two symbols to contemplate. Great workshop. Thank you for your facilitation over the the group. You are simply wonderful."




"Wonderful retreat. Colette is great. I really like the gentle and easy way she led us. Love the art project. Love not having an agenda and her suggestion at the beginning to just relax and go with it. I like that this retreat led us somewhere—had content and worked toward deeper insights and meaning. Really liked Colette’s style of facilitation. Please offer it again! I’d love to bring friends."


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