Read with Colette



Imagine a thread connecting every human being.

January 5, 2020 |

Imagine a thread connecting every human being. Connecting yourself to the web of life can provide comfort. We are not in each other’s way, but we are the way for each other. We are the sources of comfort for one another. Colette offers a multitude of inspiration for welcoming more comfort and joy into your…

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Find easy ways to create more comfort in your home.

January 4, 2020 |

Find easy ways to create more comfort in your home. A comfortable home benefits everyone who lives there and everyone who visits. Get new throw pillows for the sofa, put fresh flowers in a vase on the dining table, make Sunday morning breakfast, or clear out the linen closet and neatly fold the towels. Finding…

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Encourage someone to take a comfort break with you.

January 3, 2020 |

Encourage someone to take a comfort break with you. See a movie or an art show, walk barefoot in the sand, or enjoy your garden. For more inspiration to find comfort and joy in everyday moments, sign up for Colette’s upcoming Living Comfort, Living Joy online retreat. This 11-Day Online Retreat is focused on bringing…

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Slow down for five minutes and be present.

January 2, 2020 |

Slow down for five minutes and be present. Today, when you ask someone, “How are you?” take the time to really listen. Listening to another person is a true gift of comfort in our busy world. For more Tips for Finding Everyday Comfort & Joy sign up for Colette’s upcoming Comfort & Joy retreat. An…

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Gratitude Ripple

November 15, 2019 |

Let’s create a ripple of gratitude this November. For inspiration and support, listen to the Three Gratitudes audio, by Carrie Newcomer: What are you grateful for?

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How Our Special Places Connect Us to Gratitude

November 5, 2019 |

This past July, I decided to leave the San Francisco summer fog, and head across the Golden Gate Bridge to a retreat center in warm Marin county. The Santa Sabina Retreat Center, tucked away in a corner of the Dominican College campus, feels likes a large home, with 40 single bedrooms surrounding a lovely courtyard with…

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Seeking Surrender: How My Friendship with a Trappist Monk Taught Me to Trust and Embrace Life

Seeking Surrender

How My Friendship with a Trappist Monk Taught Me to Trust and Embrace Life

Published by Ave Maria Press, Spring 2015.

"In Seeking Surrender, Colette Lafia challenges our notion of surrender, inviting us to see it as a path of opening to the fullness of life. Her spiritual companion, a Trappist Monk from the Abbey of Gethsemani, encourages and guides her towards deeper trust along her journey in a series of letters shared over years. A beautiful and honest book."  – Fr.Richard Rohr, O.F.M.

An unlikely friendship between spiritual director and retreat leader, Colette Lafia, and a silent monk at Thomas Merton’s home monastery, the Abbey of Gethsemani, comes to life through seven years’ worth of shared letters. Lafia’s palpable openness and warm storytelling offer her readers the same compassionate process that lead Lafia to accept herself, find peace with life, and strive for an ever deeper relationship with the Divine.

Folded within the development of a deep friendship cultivated through brief letters exchanged between Lafia and Brother René is Lafia’s struggle with infertility, insomnia, the loss of her sister, the declining health and eventual death of her father, and her role as her father’s caregiver. Brother René’s compassion and guidance to her throughout these trials and Lafia’s responses to him provide a template for helping readers surrender to their own life’s events.

Readers will find simple exercises and profound advice for living a more conscious and intentional life, including tips like, “Look at yourself through God’s eyes,” “Notice when fear arrives at your door,” and “Trust all is well.” Ultimately readers will come away with a new attitude of letting go and acceptance in daily life.

Comfort & Joy: Simple Ways to Care for Ourselves and Others

Comfort & Joy

Simple Ways to Care for Ourselves and Others

Purchase the book with new journaling tips included from Amazon.

Awarded “One of the Best Spiritual Books of 2008” by spirituality and

“In her book Comfort and Joy, Lafia’s warm prose knits a cozy tapestry of vignettes, observations, affirmations, and gentle questions covering the simple ways we can care for others and ourselves.” Janet Boyer, author of New Year, New You.

Comfort and Joy is a small book that can engender big and welcomed changes in our lives and our attitude. It’s a book to keep handy, to turn to again and again. Lafia offers forty-five vignettes—small stories, pictures of comfort as simple and grand as a plush pillow or a warm cup of tea. Simply reading them is comforting and more than likely to inspire the reader to dive into the journaling prompts or follow the suggestions for cultivating comfort, which accompany each passage. And because she knows that comfort taken and comfort shared make the world a much kinder and better place, in a section called “Applied Comfort,” Lafia gives us inspiring ways to take comfort and pass it on.

A simple and beautiful book with a profound message—learning to comfort ourselves is not a narcissistic pursuit, it’s absolutely essential if we want to make any kind of real difference in the world.

Seeking Surrender Sunday