Comfort & Joy

Finding Comfort & Joy

The Sacredness of Self Care

By Colette Lafia / Comments Off on The Sacredness of Self Care

Wednesday Wisdom: Self Care is Sacred. It is a new year, and I am finding it hard to step into it because with each step I am letting go more, as I mourn the loss of my mother, and the loss of having a mother. So what happens, when despite our…

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Finding the small spaces inside

By Colette Lafia / Comments Off on Finding the small spaces inside

It’s 11 a.m. and like most of us the morning has been busy — getting up, packing lunches, driving to work, and responding to all the demands that have come my way in the school library. But I am ready to burst. I need a minute to detach and find…

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House of Love, House of Fear

By Colette Lafia / Comments Off on House of Love, House of Fear

The days roll in and out, and time is like the ocean. But when fear overtakes me, I see myself as separate from the flow of life. There are so many reasons for fear, and each one of us must observe and learn how and when fear seeps in. I…

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Everything’s a practice

By Colette Lafia / Comments Off on Everything’s a practice

I am noticing the tiny moments that call for practice. Yesterday, I was tired and hoping my husband would meet me at the gym so we could go grocery shopping and head home after our busy days at work. But at 5:45 I get a text: could you pick me…

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Seeing life with open eyes

By Colette Lafia / Comments Off on Seeing life with open eyes

I am being watchful of the mindset that drains me (self critical, unfulfilled, restless). It’s a familiar story and I easily fall into it, if I’m not alert. I know the story, and what is behind it, so there is no longer a need to analyze it. So rather than…

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Making a shift in habits

By Colette Lafia / Comments Off on Making a shift in habits

The antidote for self-criticism is self appreciation. I used to believe it was self acceptance, yet sometimes acceptance can feel too much like resignation. Self appreciation on the other hand allows us to recognize what we value about ourselves. There are times when I feel self criticism is beating down…

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